Discover confidence you didn’t know you had.
Have you ever looked at a colleague or friend and wondered how confident they seemed, and wished you could be that confident?
Although some people exude confidence, none of us are confident in every aspect of our lives and will avoid situations that we do not feel confident in. Those people who seem too confident are usually hiding behind a lack of self-esteem.
What’s the difference between self-esteem and confidence?
At first sight self-esteem and confidence appear to be the same thing. Actually, they are different. Confidence can be learnt and grows through being experienced in a specific skill or subject. But self-esteem is how we feel about ourselves deep inside. This is due to our core beliefs, usually learnt form a young age.
Confidence can be improved, and if not continually worked at, will drop. A good example is driving. The more you drive, the more confident you become. But if you don’t drive for a while you don’t feel so sure of yourself when you get back behind the wheel again. A “stay at home mum” may lose her confidence in returning to work. We will feel naturally confident if we have high self-esteem, but becoming confident doesn’t necessarily improve self-esteem.
Life is not a smooth road, and things happen in our lives that can knock our confidence, such as losing a job, or having a car accident. Anxiety and depression may also affect confidence. Then there are situations that require us to move out of our comfort zone, such as giving the best man’s speech, or being asked to give a presentation at work.
Hypnotherapy can help you rehearse these situation in a positive way using guided imagery.
EFT can gently work on the emotions and the beliefs underlying the lack of confidence.
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